That word just seems to carry a bad meaning. It makes a lot of people angry and leaves a bad taste in their mouths, but I am here to tell you that those people are wrong. Submission is not a bad thing. It is not something that real men use as a means of getting their way.
When you say the word submission most people think of the dictionary definition:submissionthe state of being obedient : the act of accepting the authority or control of someone else
To them it symbolizes being under someones control, not having any say so in your own life. Of being under someone else's boot heel, of being enslaved. They think of women that are beating and tormented by their spouses. It makes them think of days when women could not get an education or work. Some people even think about the old term, "Keeping them barefoot and pregnant", so they can't leave or won't leave, but I see the word differently.
When I think of submission I don't see the worldly view, but the biblical one. The scriptures do not define the word submission as a mindless obedience to a husband’s every wish or demand. Instead, submission is a deep,personal commitment to someone else. It is making the choice to work with your mate in a way that promotes oneness. In Genesis 1:26, the Bible tells us that: A married couple becomes one flesh. That simply means they must work as a team and continuous arguing and fighting will work against them being in unity. There will be times when the wife, will not agree with the husbands decision but she must follow his lead. God has placed him in her life as the head. Of course there will be times, such as abuse, that it is best for the husband or wife not to remain in the relationship.
God designed marriage to be a relationship in which love is giving and received. It was designed to be a partnership in which the husband and wife serve each other. It was designed in a way the husbands and wives would love and sacrifice for one another, but in different ways. Husband are to love their wives by protecting, providing for, cherishing and serving them.
Wives are to submit to their husbands out of respect and love. The husband and the wife are each given many opportunities to show the love of Christ to one another, but that it is not always an easy thing to do. Marriage is a wonderful reflection of Gods redeeming work in our lives. If we follow biblical principle, marriage can be a wonderful example of Christlike love and submission.